Sunday, August 22, 2010

Sometimes You Just Gotta Stun

Pink couldn't wait to model her new dress from stun. Their clothes are just too cute. 


I know some people out there are opposed to little girls getting too girlie.  Perhaps worrying that their self -worth will get tangled up in their physical appearance.  I would argue that the act of putting on a pretty dress, liking accessories, and wrapping yourself in pink isn't the sole cause of all problems for all girls in our society.  It really comes down to the way it's done...the messages sent in daily living both in and outside the home.  A girl liking the more "stereotypical" things about being a girl can be fine unless there is an absence of balance with other aspects of being a girl:  her brains, her strength, her creativity. 

Sometimes a girl of any age just wants to feel pretty.  Is that in and of its self so wrong?  I certainly hope not.


Sometimes a cute pair of shoes with sexy jeans and a little lip gloss can brighten up my mood.  I would hate to think of that as shallow. And God knows I don't base anything on my looks...wouldn't get far in that department.  It's just nice to feel pretty every now and then.   Simply for me. 

I want Pink to believe she is beautiful for as long as she can, before the insecurities of adolescence creep in.  And beauty, she knows, comes from the inside and radiates out. She's always known that.  She's always been that. 


Having girls has made me get in touch with my own little girlie side.  A cute flower barrette.  Bright red stilettos with my black cocktail dress. A little bling here and there.  No shame in that game.  Sometimes a spritz of perfume and a coat of polish does the trick on a tough day.


I love being a girl who has lots of girls.  As long as they are comfortable in their own skin, loving themselves for who they are and not for what they look like, as long as they treat the world with kindness and love, they will be beautiful girls.  Girls in t-shirts and clunky work boots or girls in strappy sandals bedazzled and bejeweled.  If they are true to themselves and right in the soul, they will always be girls who just stun.



Elizabeth said...

Wonderful post -- and I'm struck by its similarity with the dilemma women who have boys face -- the dilemma of aggression and rough play and toy guns. I have to believe that so much is innate and that our job as mothers is to support and build upon those innate qualities, helping to make sure that they manifest positively...

Catatab_Tabimount said...

I read a little about this in Barbara Kingsolver's Small Wonder. She at first was not too fond of buying her daughter a Barbie doll, since she was worried that she'll grow up thinking that she HAS to be pretty and girlie. But she heard her daughter was talking to a friend saying "my mom won't let me have a barbie," and then welcomed Barbie into the family.

I think that as a whole, even if gender roles are completely abolished, the majority of girls are probably still going to prefer "feminine" things because it is part of genetic makeup.

Anonymous said...

Amen, sista. LOVE this.

And your girls are lovely inside and out - it's plain to see.

Carrie Link said...

WONDERFUL photos, thank you! Oh, and what Elizabeth said, but she said it so much better.

Maggie May said...

great post- and i love the photos with great big gobs of color and love

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